Have you ever found yourself trying so hard to prove a point that you tip the scale at being pig-headed?
Yes, pig-headed, stubborn like a dog on a bone.
Well, I hate to admit it, but I have been known to be a bit pig-headed at times. In fact, this morning on my way back home from taking my daughter Leila to camp, I witnessed this kind of stubborness on the road. You know the kind of stubborness that says I-have-got-to-prove-to-you-that-I-am-right-and-you-are-wrong kind of pig-headedness.
Well, it takes one to know one, afterall.
So, there were two women drivers in two separate cars on the road travelling in the same direction. They were both in the left lane. The one in front was going slower than the one following her wanted her to go, so the one following was trailing her very closely. The lady in front didn't like being tailgated. So she slammed on her brakes to prove her point: don't tailgate.
The lady following her slammed on her brakes but continued to tailgate to prove her point: drive fast in the fast lane.
The amazing thing though was that they kept doing this for atleast 5 times. Neither car changed lanes or tried to get around the other. Both of them were so convinced they were right and they had to prove their point regardless of the cost.
They didn't crash, but they certainly tied up traffic and were both probably late(and frustrated) by the time they got to where ever they were going. Their pig-headedness kept them stuck.
In their quest to be right, they were both wrong. They also lost sight of their objective to have a productive day.
Stubborness has a way of getting in the way of meeting your objectives especially if you are proving you are right.
Leaders don't have to be right, they want results.